We all want these qualities in a true friendship. When you’ve found someone to bring them into your relationship, I wish you a lifetime of mutual support and great times because you both deserve it.
Being a good friend is sometimes a challenge, but it’s worth it because everyone’s needs are somehow and somehow met.
LOYALTY – Friends are loyal to one another and have their backs free to each other. They don’t say unkind things about you and they will defend you when someone else does. Loyalty is another word for commitment, and when you know you have that about another person, it’s empowering.
RESPECT – Respect is hard to find in people these days, but a true friend doesn’t have to be anything other than respectful. A friend gives you honest feedback in a concise and friendly manner and never tries to make you feel guilty. The respect and insight you get from a real friend can help you remember who you really are just by listening.
INTERDEPENDENCE – Your friend has a life of its own and is not dependent on you or your friendship. Your bond makes your life bigger, not smaller. There is no need to be codependent as you both respect each other. Bringing in your own individual ideas and experiences only expands your friendship and your outlook on life.
EMPATHY – your true friends will not only feel your pain, they will also help you heal from it. When someone who is empathetic sees a friend in need, they can’t help but support themselves in every possible way. An empathetic friend senses your pain and helps ease it by just being there.
NON-JUDGMENT – Most of us are scared of being judged, especially if we’ve made a mistake. A true friend will not judge you, but will be on your side no matter what, and defend yourself so you don’t have to feel defensive. You don’t have to worry that this will make you feel even worse than you already do.
RELIABILITY – When a friend says they will do something for or with you, you know it is something you can count on. When you have a friend who will have your back and be there for you, it will make your life easier and a lot more fun. It’s hard to rely on people these days, and just having one reliable friend can make a world of difference. These relationships are a real gift.
SELELELESSNESS – Having someone who gives you the shirt off their back is the essence of true friendship. Friends help each other and share their happiness so that friendship and your life can go on even in bad times. It depends on whether someone helps when they can or not. Some people just can’t bother to pick you up at the airport. Real friends make themselves known.
Friends are more than just people you know, work with, or hang out with at a party. Friends are the people in your life that you can rely on. Period.
Dr. Barton Goldsmith, a psychotherapist in Westlake Village, California, is the author of The Happy Couple: How to Make Happiness a Habit of One Little Love Thing at a Time. Follow his daily insights on Twitter at @BartonGoldsmith or email him at [email protected] © 2021 Tribune Content Agency, LLC